This is the beginning of a series I’d like to call: Mommy Essentials
My hope is to share what I believe to be essentials as a mom. I’ve been a mom for 4 years and I’m definitely not an expert but there have been things in my and others’ lives that have made this journey a heck of a lot more enjoyable!
First things first: Mom Friends!! I didn’t realize how important mom friends were until I actually had some. Mom friends are other moms who are in the same life space as you, that have kids around your age, and share similar ways of thinking.
I guess I was lucky, because mom friends actually happened to me. I was a new stay-at-home mom in a new city and didn’t know anyone with kids my age that was home during the day. I was bored out of my mind and lonely. I randomly found out about a Baby Story Time class at the library and decided to give it a try. Organically, I and a few other moms struck up a conversation and by the end of the class we were planning playdates outside of the library schedule! The rest is history…
How do you make mom friends?
Ultimately, I think because I was open to connecting with all different types of moms and letting people into my world made things easy. I also made it a point to leave the house with my kids and without my husband often while he was at work. Some moms love being home, and that’s ok! Other moms love going out with their husbands, which I really enjoy too. But for me, I find it hard to have any sort of conversation with other people when I go out with my spouse & kids because I just want to talk to him. Venturing out may give you a chance to strike up an unhurried conversation with another mom that’s also out with her kids. Sometimes the conversations start up because your kids start playing together. An easy “How old are your kids?” or a “Do you live in the area?” is a great conversation starter! Have an open mind to other women you meet because you’ll be surprised at how much you may have in common!
I love meeting moms that are doing something that I’ve heard about and would love to know more. I’m very comfortable making new friends and often super bold. If in talking with a new mom you just met, with whom you feel you’ve made a connection, try setting up a play date! It’s a great way to get to know each other, and give your little one(s) some social time!
What are the benefits of having mom friends?
The benefits of having mom friends are endless. These are women who may be going through or have gone through the same things as you. Have wrestled with breast feeding, diaper blow outs, potty training, searching for preschools, etc. They get it because they’re going through it at the same time as you! I’ve realized I’ve already forgotten a lot of things that I did for my kids when they were babies. They may understand what you’re going through, and you can run issues or weird things by them. Or when you’re feeling down having another mom who gets it and can sympathize with you is nice as well. One last benefit is having friends who can watch your kids unexpectedly, mom friends typically have a baby proof home and toys that are age appropriate for your kids!
Where are some places I can make mom friends?
Everywhere! But seriously, library, mom work out groups (Baby Boot Camp/Fit 4 Mom), Bible study (BSF, MOPS, Mom to Mom), grocery store, kids school, gym, work, neighbors, playground, church, homeschool groups, and Facebook groups! So basically, everywhere! lol
Do mom friends have to live close by?
No! I actually have a handful of friends from college that we’ve become closer because we had kids around the same time. And we haven’t lived in the same city since we left college. These women have been my sounding board during some tough times and I often FaceTime or call them to seek advice.
Mommas, we desperately need each other! I know our days a filled up loving and taking care of our kids but how much more enjoyable can those days be having a fellow mom to do it with.