praying…everyday…together. sounds pretty simple, right?
our marriage wasn’t in a great spot but got a whole lot better, fast. we were in a place where we wanted more intimacy with each other and healing from some hurts. we’ve heard for years how you should do this but could never follow through consistently for more than 2-3 days at a time. something changed in our marriage this summer and we both decided we had to do this if we wanted our marriage to not only survive, but thrive.
there were days when one person didn’t feel like praying and the other one would pray. some days the prayers were short and choppy and other days our prayers ended in tears. we’ve been married for over six years and i’d have to say the times i’ve seen my husband the most vulnerable is when he would pray. it gave me insight on areas that he was struggling with that he hadn’t expressed clearly. hearing him pray helped me see where he needed me to pray for him. it softened by heart towards him when we weren’t seeing eye to eye. it allowed me to forgive and extend grace when i didn’t really feel like extending grace.
one book that i’ve come to love and highly recommend is, “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. the author shares her own experiences in different key areas of marriage and a short prayer at the end of each chapter filled with scripture. personally, i’m not a fan of guided prayers, but when i took a look at them, they were filled with scripture. some areas that i’ve prayed for my husband using this book are: his purpose, his choices, his mind, his temptations, his obedience, and his fears.
this is what worked for us, and i believe it could be a missing piece to getting your marriage to a better place if you’re not already praying together. the Word says to pray without ceasing (1Thes 5:17). what better way to be more intimate with your spouse, besides the obvious, than to not only pray but to share those prayers with each other. when we weren’t doing this, we could easily go on for days, even weeks without sharing our deepest areas that were in need of prayer. we would share the obvious marriage, work and children issues, but where we laid it all was before the Lord. if you don’t have a spouse that is willing to do this i’d suggest still praying for them everyday and pray that you don’t get discouraged when you don’t see progress or change right away.
a good friend of mine started praying daily with her husband about a week ago and she shared how it’s already been a blessing. she said that she’s finding herself thinking about stopping to pray for him in the moment immediately when she wants to yell at him or complain! praise the Lord! i’m starting to believe when you start praying for one area of your life, other areas and people come to mind that are in need of prayer. so start praying friends, i know you won’t regret it.
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